Today I was told that Fisher was a little genius and that I shouldn't give up on having more little geniuses in the future. All of that and I went to the library, took Fisher to the park and met Teresa for dinner. Quite the day!
A month or so ago Fisher's daycare told us that he never talks there. Ever. He talks at home sometimes more than others - but he definitely talks at home. But at daycare, nothing. One day he said "duck" at daycare and they were so excited. This was concerning to Shawn and I so we started paying attention and noticed that Fisher didn't talk too much around people other than the two of us. We decided to take Fisher out of daycare for the summer to save money and to work with him more one on one. We also had him evaluated by his pediatrician and while the pediatrician didn't think anything was wrong, he said we could get him evaluated by the speech therapist, just to make sure. We scheduled the speech eval, took Fisher out of daycare and then Fisher had a language explosion. He started talking more and more and in longer sentences to Shawn and I. And it seemed that he was becoming more comfortable talking in public and with other people, but that was hard to judge because we took him out of daycare. I am not sure if the daycare and speech explosion were coincidental or not, but both Shawn and I felt that the class he was in was not a good fit for Fisher and we are both glad that we decided to take him out.
Anyway - prior to the speech explosion we had scheduled Fisher a speech evaluation with a speech therapist. I wanted to keep the appointment because I wasn't sure if Fisher would talk to the therapist and was curious if she had any ideas on how we could get him more comfortable talking with other people. So today was the evaluation and Fisher shocked me! He warmed right up to the speech therapist and talked and talked!! I was amazed and sat back and watched him sail through all of the tests. I have never seen him interact with someone other than family like this. The therapist said that he was a "little genius" and that he was on a 3 and 4 year old level on many things. She sees no need to do any therapy at this point. She agrees that the daycare was not a good fit for Fisher and gave us some suggestions on his next daycare. She also said that if he doesn't talk at his new daycare then we can reevaluate him.
I was proud of Fisher and somewhat surprised that he appeared to not only warm up to the therapist but also show off! For example she would ask him to give the stuffed penguin one block and he would pick up a block and say "ONE YELLOW BLOCK" and hand the block to the penguin. I just sat back and laughed. I actually learned a lot from watching their session and got some great ideas on ways that I can play and engage with Fisher that I haven't thought of.
My follow up appointment for my D&E was today too. I was dreading it and looking forward to it at the same time. I was dreading it because emotionally it is hard but looking forward to the possibility of answers. I did not get any answers unfortunately. We are still waiting on the chromosome tests of the baby. Beyond that the midwife told me that she thinks Shawn and I should take time to heal emotionally and for me to heal physically before trying again. I agree wholeheartedly with that. I feel like all of the stress of the last year or so has caught up with me and I want a break from as much stress and worry as possible right now. I want to focus on the three of us right now first and foremost and then maybe in the future we will cross the bridge of trying to get pregnant again. I explained mine and Shawn's reservations and concerns about trying for a fourth pregnancy when we have two losses. She understood but said that she didn't want me to give up on my dream for another baby yet. She said that she recommends me taking a baby aspirin as soon as I get pregnant next time and that if I would prefer I could be referred to a High Risk OB for a full work up when we decided we were ready to try again. She said that the High Risk OB wouldn't likely do anything different from what she would do (testing and then recommending aspirin, progesterone, etc) but that it was up to me. I think I will opt to see the High Risk OB when we get to that point. Though the thought of getting pregnant is terrifying to me right now, the thought of deciding (or being told to) never get pregnant again is worse, so I am thankful for the gentle push to not give up yet.
An interesting day to say the least. I will take it, learn from it, and we will see what the future holds for Shawn, Fisher, and I.